Too Nearsighted

 I think everyone is nearsighted and farsighted. 

When you're too close to something, you're farsighted, and when you're too far from something, you're nearsighted. Sometimes you need the universe to manually kick your butt, and knock you back to your senses. I always thought the saying "Love is blind" was stupid, that only idiots are blind in love. It turns out I was the biggest idiot. Mind you, I don't even have bad eyesight. Thank you, universe. And FYI, the saying applies to every kind of relationship.

I was told once, by a girl in my class, she said, "You're one of those ugly children born to a young and pretty mother." That marked the day my confidence shattered. What is beauty to you? How do you define beauty? A fair complexion, blue or green eyes and blond hair? I honestly think beauty is on the inside, though it's such a cliche statement, I can't tell apart looks, I'm being honest. I can't tell if you're pretty or not, I can't tell you in what way that girl looks better than you. But I can tell if you are gold or not. Or so I thought. I guess I was nearsighted. I find personalities attractive, I'm not nice to everyone, and I'm not friends with everyone. I only ever talk to people whom I think are genuine. A golden person to me is someone warm on the inside, who makes me think "ugh, what would I do without you?" I've noticed that this person, everyone calls ugly at the start, but one minute into a conversation with them, they become insanely attractive. How? Because they are gold. Absolute charmers, extremely funny, smart and mainly kind humans. This makes a person attractive to me; the face value never mattered. But sometimes a face so pretty, but a personality so hideous. Makes you think, how could this angel do such a terrible thing? Angels are overrated; most angels are deemed devils because what comes out of their mouths is a different story. They're honest, and honesty isn't appreciated. We all had someone whom we deemed as a literal "angel", like they could do you no wrong. And one day, you see through the facade, and they make you question if you were the problem. But 3 seconds later, cue a scene with crocodile tears, and you're back to square one. Have shame, you brainless buffalo.

I'm not going to class you about having strong boundaries because mine are made of paper. But I sure am going to tell you there are more fish in the sea, and some who would want to fry you, get fried, not deep fried. Friends come and go, it's true. We think our world is going to crash, nah, you'll make better ones. Some friends are just not compatible; it's a waste to keep that going. It's important to have friends who understand and have the same intellectual game as you. Compatibility is important. It might be all fun and games in the start, soon it gets frustrating, irritating even, they say something it pisses you off, and now we start WW-3. Why? Instead, go out and make other friends. It's a cycle, ok, at a point you grow tired of a person and want to get rid of them, unless you really, really love them, you resolve fights. Simple, you either shove your ego aside and have friends or continue having an ego and have no friends. You can't always expect the other person to apologise and make up; playing the victim isn't helpful, ever. But you can't ever assassinate someone's character to make yourself look good. And sometimes you just have to move on, knowing sometimes only people's backs are warm, and their hearts cold.

But you know what hurts more than heartbreak and petty fights, bad investments. I think everything you do in life is an investment for the future, the friends you make, the people you choose to trust, the career path you pick, and the place you decide to live in, all are investments for the longer run, its just like on spot after buying or investing in, suppose a company you have no guarantee you'll make profit, to be frank it might eat up all your assets, but you still take the risk, in hopes that all turns out well. But before making an investment, you must conduct research. For example, before investing in the stock market, most people study the market trends, study the changes, etc. Be that person; your intuition might be great, but always relying on it might not be right. But some points to keep in mind while making investments are: your risk tolerance, Professional advice, an investment plan, how long you want to stay invested, and finally, your financial status. But the most important will be research, research on changing trends. These trends determine everything; mostly, they are unpredictable, but deep research will help. I've seen people more sad about losing money in the stock market than a heartbreak. Therefore, make your investments wisely, whether it's in the stock market or a friendship. The best investments are investing in yourself and your future.

 But we also must accept, beyond all this, they were good friends once, friends you relied on, felt like you could say anything to, even though it might be a good riddance for it to end, the memories are everlasting, they'll always remain a fragment of you, someone who had a huge role in raising you making you the person you are today, more importantly they grew up with you, in the end its the good memories that matter. A disagreement, a behaviour that both sides didn't like, might have ended in a fight, but a fight is a mistake from both sides. Honestly, sometimes you can't go back to how it was, but you can be better people and end it peacefully. The rage after a fight will last a day or two, calming down and taking a step back and waving the white flag is the right step. The best advice I can give would be not to make friends with people who are hard to communicate with, and those who are scared to show their true selves and sugar coat all their actions. I want to make friends like the ones in the movies, the ones who makes you laugh no matter the situation, the ones who'll spend all evening just trying to be there for you,  the ones who'll casually push you into the pool and the ones who'll steal your last 100 rupees and buy your birthday gift with it. This is the kind of friend I want to be.